Soot and Stars
I AM SOOT!
I have a request. I use music to channel my feelings. Honestly, though nothing is really written (that I know of) regarding what I'm going through. Most sad songs are about lost love but the intimate soulmate variety. If there is a song about losing a loved one it's about after they're gone. Is their any song about the grieving process of dealing with those who are here but are fading before our eyes. I don't mean breathing machines or anything but songs that deal with how people fade on us in our last years. Older friends will know my struggle with my grandmother. She's past. She's in peace. Now I have my grandfather who's struggling even more mentally. Grammy always had a light to her and was always a strong presence even in pain. My grandfather is miserable. He can show love and is loving but he can't be happy. He's developed mental OCDs (hot/cold), paranoia, guilt, depression and now he's really weak and falling and doesn't have the fight my Grammy did. Anyway, after having processed my grief with Grammy because I went through two years of it my wounds have been fresh with all the new situations. I had a dream with both her and my grandfather and the emotions are still clear to me even if the dialog isn't. In the end I felt she was sending optimism. It made me miss her more. I never dream anymore so it was odd. Anyway, certain lines in songs can grab me but the most of the song doesn't apply. I'm not the type to get catharsis just by listening to a favorite song of theirs. Is there a song that one can relate to this grieving process and the feel of hopelessness it can bring. I'd appreciate if something can help me process this. Peace!