I agree with you Khor as long as the opinion is not directly aimed at a paticular member. Open opinion can often be read wrong. I think that many of your opinions come off as valid. It's just that some forums are more "abrasive" than others, lol. It is the responsibility of the active user to figure out what the culture of the board is all about. Once again, it is just my opinion.
You are absolutely correct with that. You don't go into church with the same attitude you go to the pub with. It is not being a conformist to get along it is simply being a human with common sense. Sadly, my radar for such stuff is in serious need of refinement. I could blame it on the East Coast Megalopolus but in the end it's up to me.
Another forum I frequent has the exact opposite handling of controversy. Instead of censoring at all, they kind of actively feed the flames. In the end the members themselves usually weed out the real troublemakers but along the way some folks actually leave the forum because of something some other member said.
I actually stopped responding to someone one time on a forum because the guy was just a constant flame bait troll. When the argument has substance I can go the distance, if a difference of opinion means that someone is just going to attack everything you say without even trying to get the jist of it...not so much.