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[Riff Raff]

Re: Daily, Nightly and Ever So Rightly II *Chat Thread*

In my opinion it is better to tell them you feel that way, don't string them along. That would have far worse repercussions than being honest.

 

[electric funeral]

Good morning all.

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[Riff Raff]

Re: Daily, Nightly and Ever So Rightly II *Chat Thread*

Had a drive yesterday down the neighbourhood of which I was at as a child, and it brought back memories, problem is they were mostly bad ones. Nothing but torment from a bully back then, at a time where even a court order wouldn't stop this kid bullying me. Maybe it was a good thing to confront that as maybe to truly get past it I have to re enter and memorise that dark place mentally.

 

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Good Morning EF

 

[ComfortablyNumb]

Re: Daily, Nightly and Ever So Rightly II *Chat Thread*

You wouldn't want to associate with me then Soots because I'd rather tell a white lie than hurt somebody's feelings. On the other hand if somebody is really pestering me and can't take a gentle hint, I am capable of telling him to bugger off. I'm just glad I'm out of all that singles thing now. I seemed to have spent a year avoiding unwanted advances when I was perfectly happy being single at the time.

I get what youre saying especially since what she said gave me the impression that she legitimately did not want to date anyone and wanted to remain single. So when I find out that she is now seeing someone was kinda of a big wtf moment for me. Then she told me I made it clear that I wanted to just be friends and I did hint at the age being a main factor. Well the things that were said to me previously and actions that transpired made me think otherwise about the just friends thing haha. Not a mind reader. So that is an instant where a white lie is a bit more hurtful than the truth, but also that whole situation is a bit more ****ed up than it normally is.

I didn't mean to come off like I was pointing fingers but to me sometimes honesty, with tact, is the highest act of kindness. Anyone, no matter who it is, is capable of having feelings for someone and unless they know better straight out they have no reason to believe that they don't have a chance. If they are told straight out and then they keep advancing then they are the problem. I think telling someone simply that you don't feel they are a match for you in that way is the kind and adult thing to do and actually hurts their feelings less in the long run. Hell, it gives them time to pursue someone else who would appreciate them more. Once again, these are just general perceptions on my half so I hope you don't take it personally Sunny! I'll shut up now!

I agree and that is all I was looking for, but for some reason she thinks that there is no nice way of saying that when you just gave a great counter response to being asked out haha. And that is how I look at it. It hurts less in the long run. Pretty sure that our friendship is ****ed now and if not it will never be the same as it once was and I do not look at her in the same light as I once did. and I honestly believe that coulda been avoided with a simple truth. Instead now I am just not wanting to talk to her and have just blown off her calling me and texting me and told her idk what I want to do, but I'll still go to the show, but after not sure.

In my opinion it is better to tell them you feel that way, don't string them along. That would have far worse repercussions then being honest.

I 100% agree.


Got my snowboarding trip planned. Got about 7 people to go. Should be fun.

 

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Re: Member's Picture Thread Vol. 2

just found these pictures from the last few winters and just uploaded em to my comp.

 

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[Nololob]

Re: Member's Picture Thread Vol. 2

Aw, lots of great pics of everyone!

It was time for a new FB profile pic for various reasons ... and since it's somewhat classic rock related ...

I'd love to see what you've got on your shelves. Your collection is huge!

 

[Slip'nn2Darkness]

Re: Daily, Nightly and Ever So Rightly II *Chat Thread*

Had a drive yesterday down the neighbourhood of which I was at as a child, and it brought back memories, problem is they were mostly bad ones. Nothing but torment from a bully back then, at a time where even a court order wouldn't stop this kid bullying me. Maybe it was a good thing to confront that as maybe to truly get past it I have to re enter and memorise that dark place mentally.

I was just talking to my wife yesterday about growing up and getting bullied.. I think most of use had to deal with some asshole who made it tough in our lives.. My wife said.. It's apart of the chain of life. It's hard to except it when someone bigger than you or has alot of friends bully you, but that only says they are the weak. We can't change our past.. but we can stop letting those memories create painful feelings..